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Opinion: Rob Gronkowski needs to change his act

02.05.13 at 11:32 am ET
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Rob Gronkowski had 11 touchdown catches in 2012. (AP)

Rob Gronkowski had 11 touchdown catches in 2012. (AP)

We’ve reached intervention stage with Rob Gronkowski.

Now, that’s not meant to suggest we are dealing with an alcohol issue when it comes to the best tight end on the planet, though I suspect if he had been completely sober there’s a chance the video we’ve all seen on TMZ wouldn’t exist.

Before we get to the areas of concern, though, let’s be very clear about this: Rob Gronkowski, by every account, works incredibly hard, is a terrific teammate, has production off the charts, plays hurt, has done more than his share of charity and seems to truly enjoy being a professional football player in New England. The fact that there is no filter is a reason for his popularity. And that’s why people, by and large, are OK with all the extracurricular activities. Put it another way: If video surfaces of John Lackey dancing and wrestling at a club in Fort Myers sometime over the next couple of weeks there will be a very different reaction in this city (of course correctly so). Lackey being Lackey isn’t viewed as a good thing.

Also this: I didn’t care about Bibi Jones and whatever they did or not do in his or her bedroom or anywhere else. I’m pretty sure these were consenting adults, I’m not really interested in passing judgement in the (presumed) sexual activities of two single people doing nothing illegal. I thought it was a massively overblown story and absurd that Gronkowski felt the need to apologize to Bob Kraft.

And the dancing controversy after last the Super Bowl last year was equally ludicrous. This was an opportunity for a vocal minority in the media to act outraged over something that didn’t deserve a second glance. Gronkowski was clearly limited with an ankle injury in that game — he would have surgery on the ankle a week later — and deserved praise for trying to play through it, not scorn for failing to grieve about a loss in the way the way some would have liked to see. Do I think Rob Gronkowski was just as upset about the loss to the Giants as everyone else on that team? Yup. Did I care that he chose to blow off some steam by removing his shirt and dancing at a postgame party? I did not.

Now what happened in Las Vegas on Sunday night is different. Lots of times we don’t know what right or wrong is but lots of times we do, and what Gronkowski did on that stage was potentially damaging to the New England Patriots. Not the brand, not some image, not the Patriot Way, but the actual on-field product. Lifting a friend in the air and attempting wrestling moves (and that was a hideous DDT) is inviting further damage to a left arm that has been broken twice in the last three months. This isn’t taking a picture with a porn star or dancing a week before surgery, this is pure recklessness. Rob Gronkowski is a $54 million investment for the Patriots ($18 million guaranteed) and a massive part of the future of the franchise. This is a guy who could easily end up in Canton if he can stay healthy. So is there any upside to his actions in Las Vegas, does it make any sense for Gronkowski to risk another setback?

I’m all for Gronk being Gronk — all we in the media do is bash the Patriots for not having personality, for following every Belichick command, so it seems inconsistent that Gronkowski’s individualism is being criticized — but there are limits, and it was crossed in Las Vegas. The act has to change just a little, some tweaking is needed. That’s all, the world isn’t ending, no criminal acts were committed. It was a 23-year-old acting like a 23-year-old without a $54 million contract and all the serious responsibilities that go along with that deal.

So Bill Belichick or Bob Kraft or Tom Brady (maybe all three, who knows?) needs to have the talk with Gronkowski (I’m guessing he’s already had the other talk). The TMZ footage was the tipping point, plain and simple.

And the message should be this: Don’t put yourself or the New England Patriots in danger. Enjoy being a single, famous and rich 23-year-old, but don’t cross the line again.

 

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  • tk

    NO way Kirk.  HE’s our guy and wears the home team shirt!  WE got to support our players.  GO PATS!  

  • Rbrad

    He’s fine. As long as go numbers are strong I do not care.

  • big tuna

    drinking is what big pollocks do…whats the problem?

    • Mdtref

      big tuna likes fish.  Pollock does live in the ocean

  • Stephen

    If your Bob Kraft you must be cringing.This great player is a reckless fool andhas the intellect of a 17 year old.You know he will get drunk and break his wrist on someone nose and be out a portion of next year.They need him obviously to win a super bowl and the window is narrow.

    • Juangalarza80

      YOUR right man, someone has to get to him, and he is immature but what do u expect, remember he is still 23 yrs old lol.. alot of growing up to do still

      • Stephen

        Its   frustrating!Patriots would be champs if they had had him.He is an incredible talent and one of a kind but would hate for something stupid to happen.

  • http://profiles.yahoo.com/u/ZVFM2HRNC5CTO2OUXD4XTX65O4 Dennis

     He’s making a fool of himself, is embarrassing the team and unless corralled,  he will do something very stupid.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_YALJ4EULIZFR6LKF3C23Z4LABQ Craig S

      no one cares what you think DENNIS

  • Donalmcl27

    Gifted by God with a lot of talent, but it looks as though he might have been short changed in the smarts department,  Hope he can grow out of it.

  • BCL

    It’s getting old……that last video has me questioning what winning means to him. I’m sorry, and I know that I am in the minority, but seeing him party it up after the SB loss was bothersome to me.
    He is an AWESOME player but does losing bother him…….or is he on txt with his brothers planning the next trip to Vegas or AZ?

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_YALJ4EULIZFR6LKF3C23Z4LABQ Craig S

      WHO CARES? YOU ARE JUST A NEGATIVE DBAG

      • Spcaren2

         And you are an idiot if you can’t see the problem he has!  Eventually it will end up hurting the team when he isn’t able to be on the field because he got drunk and had an accident.

    • Juangalarza80

      your not in the minority , im right here wit ya

    • whitey

      I really don’t understand where people like yourself get that Gronk could care less about losing!!   Have you never really watched the kid play??  He plays the game as hard as anyone, which clearly shows he is determined to win..  Yeah so he danced after the superbowl loss last year and he partied in Vegas during this years superbowl..  What do you expect him to do??  Would you all be happy if photos of him crying in his bed surfaced??  He is still a kid, leave him the hell alone!!!  Yes, it probably wasnt the best decision to pick his buddy up, but what harm came from it??  Did he get hurt?? Did he break any laws??  NOOOOO, so leave the kid alone!!!   He is by far the best tight end, and a top 5 receiver in the Nfl, we should be jumping for joy that he is employed by the Patriots!!  One thing you all seem to miss is that all of these so called incidents have occurred during the off season..  Never have we heard of Gronk behaving inappropriately during the season, unless you blowhards consider him banging a hot porn star during the season a problem.  Would it be fair to say that other players do such things during the season??  I’ll take 10 Gronk’s on offense anytime!!   Also, for those who say he is fragile, that’s a crock of crap too!!!  The kid got his ankle rolled up last year, and broke his arm in a freak incident this year.  The rebreak, it appears was the result of the plates not being set correctly in his arm, so everyone should just relax!!!!  Look what the team does without him!!!  Enough said!!

  • EJO

    you consider yourself a journalist? get a life bro.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/John-Ortiz/1359242154 John Ortiz

    Finally Kirk you hit the nail on the head. 

  • Pats fan

    Not sure if people are aware of this but he’s still a kid. He has every right to enjoy himself when hes not on the field.

    • Stephen

      Since when is 23 a kid?He can enjoy himself without body slamming someone and breaking his arm yet again.Patriots had such an offense with him in there and now I get the feeling this talent will never be on the field much.

      • Juangalarza80

        23 YRS OLD NOT A KID BUT STILL NOT MATURE ENOUGH BUD. SPECIALY GUYS, WE MATURE WAY SLOWER THAN FEMALES..

      • whitey

        In Nfl terms, 23 years old is a kid!!  Did he break his arm??  No, so relax!!

    • Juangalarza80

      ENJOY YOURSELF BUT NOT PUT YOURSELF IN HARMS WAY WHEN YOUR BODY SLAMMING PEOPLE ON STAGE AND GETTING HAMMERED.  RIGHT AFTER YOU SUFFERED A FREAKING BROKEN ARM.  THATS A BI LIABILITY TO THE PATRIOTS!, TELL ALL THIS TO BOB KRAFT THATS PAYIN HIM THE MILLIONS..!

  • Anonymous

    gronks a drunk!

  • Logic

    Haha reading all the blowhards like Kirk wanting to micromanage players personal lives. Nothing Gronk did was illegal or wrong, you are all ‘concerned’ for his arm, give me a break.

    Accept that his life is a bit more interesting than yours.

    • Juangalarza80

      LOGIC , DID IT BOTHER YOU THAT GRONK COULDNT BE ON THE FIELD FOR THE PLAYOFFS FOR A 2ND CONSECUTIVE YEAR???

  • Chonor0713

    Let Gronk be Gronk he’ll grow out of it.  He’s just out having a good time.  At least hes not gang banging carrying guns shooting people beating up his wife or girlfriend.  This kids a saint compared to some of the other clowns playing this game.

  • Ty

    If he actually broke his arm again, I don’t think there would be as many people here defending him. He has the right to have fun off the field, but he’s still got to be responsible about it and not be wreckless.  Other than that, he does deserve his popularity and general support because he’s probably the best tight end in the league now when healthy.  He can have his fun, just as long as he’s not putting himself at serious risk of getting hurt (as with most athletes… see: Ben Roethlisberger riding a motorcycle without his helmet on a few years ago).

  • Xander Bogaerts

    If this was someone other then a Patriot he would be getting blasted. A grown man with his shirt off in a bar dancing is all you really need to know about “Gronk” and his opinion of himself. Perhaps the reason he gets hurt every year is because he would rather party at the superbowl then play.

    • whitey

      Totally ignorant comment!!!  You are a fool sir!!!

    • Xanderisadouche

      “If this was someone other then a Patriot he would be getting blasted”  Correct me if I’m wrong but isn’t this an article “blasting” him?  Why is it all you haters think the Patriots don’t get “blasted”?  Is it because your team is so irrelevant you have to invest your time in reading about the Patriots?  He may be a grown man but he is only 23 coming off of a Football Season…which unlike your 9 – 5 desk job is very grueling.  Yes….he did this last year after the Superbowl loss….but do you recall seeing him do this before Training Camp or during the Regular Season?  Yes he did it again this year after the Superbowl…and one can hope he will have gotten it out of his system like he did last year and be back in good form for Training Camp.  So how about you take yourself pretty little self over to your Yets forum and read up on how it is impossible to fix that team for next Season.

  • Chick2694

    I don care what hes doing.. but when he puts himself in physical harm… then i have a problem.. the pats are counting on him to be adult and not act like a little kid… he needs to grow up..

    • Xanderisadouche

      No…he needs to be more careful…who are you to judge and order someone to grow up?  Maybe if he’s doing this when he’s 30 then we can judge him.  I guarantee you this….he will be back next Season acting “grown up” as you call it.

  • Anonymous

    Dunno about everyone else in the real world but I grew out of the party phase at like age 21-22. Soon as it became legal to party it up it got boring. Plus one has to go to work to pay the bills. 

    These celebrity athletes are in their own world without real world problems. Of course they are gonna do whatever they want since they feel they are larger than life.

    • Juangalarza80

      yea me too lol but dude  its a lil different when your a millionaire though.. 

  • Ronjb441960

    minihass,  your a punk writing about Gronk  one of the best at TE  for Pats   your story is crap  better to apply to another  trade  ……

  • Juangalarza80

    YOU GUYS, OK AS LONG AS THE NUMBER ARE STRONG, WHEN???///.. BETWEEN FREAKIN GAMES 1 AND 10,  BEFORE WE WILL BREAK THAT ARM AGAIN BECAUSE HE WAS WRESTLING HIS BROTHER IN THE CLUB???..,   ITS DIFFERENT WHEN YOU AND I DO IT , WE ARENT PROFESSIONAL ATHLETES !!.   HE IS DIFFERENT, HE HAS TO BE MORE RESPONSIBLE AND TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF,  YOU GUYS DONT CARE.. BUT LETS SEE IF YOU CARE NEXT YEAR WHEN HE ISN’T ABLE TO BE ON THE FIELD BECAUSE HE IS DOING SOMETHING STUPID..

    • whitey

      First, what’s with the caps??  Second, when did Gronk ever do “something stupid” to miss games??  The guy missed games because he plays the game like it should be played, WHEN HE IS ON THE FIELD!!  What he does off the field, unless it’s criminal, is none of you’e business!!

  • Ty

    holy caps lock…..

  • quit complaning

    obviously he needs to be released so some other team can deal with him

    • quit complaning

      im being facetious if you can’t tell

  • Gazzzmann

    probably lost SB Gronk injury,could’nt play in title game Gronk injury 2 years in a row millions invested ,Maybe we have a fragile tight end here save the moves for the Patriot nation

  • Johnchampagne121070

    Gronk needs to grow up!! Hs acts like hes playing in pop werner

  • cahil

    only problem i have is gronk parties
    like he is a superbowl champ..
    ..he is not..

    and while he is only 23 years old
    with prime years ahead of him..
    ..the guy throwing him the ball does not..

    also kevin winters sucks on d&c..

  • Realist

    Honestly, I wouldn’t have cared about this story if he hadn’t broke his arm this year. He can body slam, suplex, put someone in the sharpshooter, pile drive, do whatever he wants in the offseason as long as his arm is 100%. That’s the problem; his arm isn’t 100%. He needs to pick his time and  place. He’s allowed to enjoy his personal life. He’s allowed to date pornstars, do stupid things not involving the law all he wants. Not everyone is going to be a prune superstar like Brady and live the model life with the model, kids, yada yada. I just wished he used better judgement this offseason, and let his arm heal. Gronk will be Gronk. 

  • Superboston

    pleeease , i thought it was something bad , loud music , dancing moves , nothing to write about , go gronk , hAve fun , you awesome , man !!!!!

  • Jim Piersall

    Somebody has to make him aware that if he injures himself and can’t play anymore, he won’t be on the A-list anymore.  Perhaps a conference with BB. Kraft, Brady, and maybe his father should tell him that he’s got a great thing going and he shouldn’t screw it up.  He can still enjoy life without acting like an idiot. 

    Just suppose he starts horseing around with someone who isn’t his brother and is hoping to get body slammed while a camera is running.  What happens when he hears from the guy’s lawyer the next day?

    He can have a fabulous life without being a fool.  Look at Brady.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_YALJ4EULIZFR6LKF3C23Z4LABQ Craig S

    Kirk you are clearly a fraud. I could give a Bleep if he partys after the Season. If he isn’t Partying during the season or getting DUIs or Getting outta shape then i don’t see whats the freaking big deal.But i think you are just another B**** Kirk. A sweater vested mothers boy B**** 

  • Dee-fense, dee-fense!

    Kirk, isn’t it time you had a vacation?  Non-story written just to get yourself some attention at the expense of one of the very special athletes in this town.  Nobody “needs” to have a talk with anybody. Gronk will be fine.  Will the Pats win the Super Bowl again? Who knows. They’ll need to play well, have some other folks not play so well, and have some better luck with injuries than this year.  For now, they need to have some fun and come back ready to go. That’s all. 

  • San Diego Dreamer

    I see a drinking problem here. He’s too smart to be so stupid all by himself. Gronk needs to be grateful for the tremendous contract the Kraft family gave him and stop acting like a jerk or at least learn how to dance.

  • Vlaw7

    great body-no brain

  • Patsfanjayrod

    hey kirk, he’s in his early 20′s. why don’t you stick with what you know, with your red sox show.

  • westernMA_jc

    So in a blog named “it is what it is” apparently Gronk shouldn’t be what he is? Maybe you should write the real reason why the Pats lost….Brady feels it’s all on his shoulders and can’t get it done like he did when he was a young buck and didn’t know any better…just like Gronk is now. Maybe you should change your act Kirk?

    • Dee-fense, dee-fense!

      The REAL reason?  How about Gronk, Talib and Jones out?  The fact is without Gronk the Pats are a good, not great offense with little margin for error.  Without Talib and Jones it’s a porous defense in rebuilding mode. 

    • Anonymous

      1. try looking at the break down in pass defense.
      2. Defense has been a major problem for years
      3. Brady will give his all, but as we found out, he needs help.
      4. Who is going to be the next Defensive Coordinator hmm?

  • Dano S

    Pats Pedictions 11.0 Trades Rob Gronkowski traded to the Cardinals for their number one pick.
    Ryan Mallett traded to Cleveland Browns for their 3rd round pick.
    Free Agents signed Wes Welker, Brady Quinn QB, Steven Jackson RB, Brian Hartline WR,
    Dustin Keller TE, Gosder Cherilus OT, Ed Reed S and Connor Barwin OLB.
    Draft 1 Dee Milliner CB Alabama 1 Alec Ogletree OLB Georgia 2 Travis Kelce TE Cincinnati
    3 Brian Winters OT Kent St. 3 Alex Okafor DE Texas 7 Collin Klein QB Kansas State.

  • http://www.mcclellandmiscellanea.wordpress.com PeterMcClelland

    Is it possible that his talent only goes as far up as his neck?

  • Wes’s anaylist

    Gronk is awesome. He’s got what 3 other brothers?  He’s been horsing around his whole life.
    Stay the same dude.

  • Schwank

    You are stirring the pot my friend.

  • A TRUE PATS FAN

    HTFC HE IS AN ADULT ON HIS OWN TIME I WOULD TELL YOU ALL TO MIND YOUR OWN F—— BUISNESS . WE ALL WISH WE COULD DO WHAT HE DOES .

  • Bielawski82

    Who are you kidding WEEI?  These guys get paid millions of dollars, they get to drive away in sports cars to their super model wives in mansions win, lose or whatever happens.  Of course they are going to party, who wouldn’t?  What matters is that he plays hard, end of story.

  • Moneyball

    I suggest that fun lovfing guys like Gronk and Brad Marchand read Derek Sanderson’s book.  The party doesn’t last forever.  Know when it’s time to go home.  

  • H25

    If I am Kraft and seeing the highest paid TE in football playing the fool with his broken arm I would be pissed.  Better chance of him breaking a bone by playing the fool than blocking on an extra point.  Just who knows if it is going to keep trending this way – rather be a celebrity than football player.   

  • Lorraine

    Nothing wrong with ‘tight end’ like Gronk and a few guys having a few drinks and dancing on the stage at Ramrod’s in Boston…Right?    

  • Chuck D

    Kirk,
    This article is perfectly stated.  It’s pretty simple, use common sense (which we often lack when bleep-faced) and don’t bring undue risk to not only your team, but you and your livelihood.  Gronk, link many 23 yr. olds, just needs a little life talk from Belicheck, and probably his “old man”.  By signing a $54 million dollar contract brings additional responsibility.  For those who can’t see that, you don’t understand the relationship between a key employee to a multi-billion dollar organization.

  • Dano S

    Pats Predictions 12.0 Free agent signed Wes Welker,Dustin Keller TE Jets,
    Sean Smith CB Miami,Dwight Freeney DE Colts and Connor Barwin OLB Houston.
    1 Trade for 2 and 4 2 Trade for 3 and 5
    2 Barrett Jones OT,OG,C Alabama 3 Quinton Patten WR Louisiana Tech
    3 Phillip Thomas S Fresno St. 4 William Gholston DE Michigan St.
    5 Landry Jones QB Oklahoma 7 Cory Grissom DT South Florida
    7 Knile Davis RB Arkansas.

  • Tom Lauranzano

    I’m with Ty’s comment below, in that I agree with the spirit of this article. Gronk is to New England what Mickey Mantle was to the Yankees; a franchise hero, with an over the top zest for life. I love Gronk, I especially love his commitment to work as hard Brady and Welker. You know he does simply bc he’s at the end of a pass route on time and meeting the ball…something 85 could never do. So I’m ok with Gronk living his gronk life. But when you’ve signed a contract to perform on the field and it’s worth bazillions…you’ve got to accept some accountability to it. I know its pretty standard for contract language to include things like, “No sky-diving, bungee jumping…etc” and I”m sure Mr Kraft will emphasize that point to his favorite TE…or will designate his QB to get that message across. Maybe Mr Kraft will have to add a line that says, “Gronking is allowable so long as it’s not considered Heavy Gronking.” We’ll leave it up to his agent to work out the rest… Btw…i grieved the loss to the Giants (last year) like everyone else but I’m sure no fan can compare his or level to what those players actually felt. So if Gronk danced a few days later, so what? No one can tell or show me evidence Gronks level of commitment is any lower than his more famous colleagues. The only reasons TB or Welk weren’t out there are Giselle won’t let TB dance in public and Welk is smart enough to know he can’t dance and look good at the same time…hahaha…just pulling their legs a little..

  • jj

    I have an issue because he was injured for the Superbowl last year and didn’t play in the playoffs this year. That’s my issue.

  • Richard Pettengill

    It might help to have him talk with Bledsoe.  I guess the mosh pit was just Drew being Drew.  Was there not a lawsuit involved with that?  Might have been paid off, but Pats slammed the door on Drew being Drew quickly.  I don’t care if got drafted out of high school;  he still ha to realize he is a direct representative of the Pats wherever he is.  All of these pro players are basically entertainers and need to be taught how to perform oout in the field.  BTW, if he does continue his IR status another year…trade him for what you can get.  Part time players don’t hit it.  Hate to hear him saying “I coulda been HOFER, I coulda been somebody instead of a bum which I am”.

  • Dano S

    Pats Predictions 13.0 Sign Free Agents Wes Welker, Mike DeVito DL Jets, Chris Canty DL Giants
    Brian Hartline WR Miami, Tony Carter CB Broncos and Glover Quinn S Texans.
    1 Trade for 2 and 4 2 Trade for 3 and 5 2 Sam Montgomery DE LSU 3 Jamar Taylor CB Boise St
    3 Kyle Long OT Oregon 4 Gavin Escobar TE San Diego St.5 Everett Dawkins DT Florida St
    7 Spencer Nealy DE Texas A&M 7 Xavier Nixon OT Florida.

    • Anonymous

      Hey Dano,  Your on the ball, I like your picks. Who’s the QB from San Diego St ?
      And the Pats need a outside receiver, a burner with good hands–tall !!!
      Defensive Coordinator, who shall it be ?

      • Dano S

        Thanks and Ryan Katz is the QB from San Diego St. Escobar the Tight End I predict pats will draft had 42 receptions and 6 td’s.

        • Anonymous

          who’s going to be the Defensive Coordinator???  And I say QB Katz may get picked by the Pats.

  • Dano S

    Pats Predictions 14.0 Draft 1) trade for 2 and 4 2) trade for 3 and 5.
    2 Sheldon Richardson DT Missouri 3 Justin Pugh OL Syracuse 3 Tharold Simon CB LSU
    4 Cobi Hamilton WR Arkansas 5 Chase Thomas OLB Stanford 7 J C Tretter G Cornell
    7 Gilbert Pena DT Mississippi.
    Free Agent Wes Welker,Danny Woodhead,Greg Jennings WR Packers,Daryl Smith OLB Jaguars
    Sean Smith CB Miami,Sam Baker OT Falcons and Anthony Fasano TE Miami.

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